Jan 14, 2010

Not great news...

The good news is, I'm having a boy.
The bad news is, he is measuring three weeks behind.
The doctor was not reassuring and gave no clues.
He's in there, his organs are well formed but he is too tiny and no one knows why.
I see a specialist of some sort in a week.
This is not what I was expecting. I am angry now that my doctor hasn't performed more scans. I'm afraid, very afraid and I covet any opinions, prayers, well wishes, anything.
I know this isn't good. I don't know how I will get through this week of waiting.
I am helpless..

22 comments:

Missing Kasey said...

I am happy for you that you are having a boy, but sad that he is small :( Thinking of you and hoping that he is just a small little guy, did you go to a perinatologist? I would recommend seeing one if not, their us machines are much better as is their knowledge.

Nicolle

stumbull said...

I am so sorry that you are having to go through all of this after everything you have been through.
I personally don't have any experience with this but I did do some research and it seems that it is a (fairly) common thing to have a baby measuring 2 to 3 weeks behind on the 20 week scan. Babies can vary in size and after the 12 week point ultrasounds are not 100% on measurements. The three main things listed as the reasons were just having a small baby, having a blood clotting or flow disorder or having some kind of genetic anomaly.
As long as everything (besides the measurements) looked good, ie: he has all his organs and your fluid levels are good it seems from what I have read that everything should be fine.
I know that probably doesn't help with the stress and worry and I am truly sorry about that but I will pray that your little boy is okay and that everything will check out great with the specialist next week.

Lindsay said...

They're supposed to be calling me with an appointment to one. I wonder if they're's ANY way it's a fluke.. I had him measure twice..

Allison (Ali) said...

Congrats on your baby BOY! I will be praying that he is ok, just small. ~hugs~

Missing Kasey said...

I had a friend who was told her little boy was measuring 4-5 weeks behind and their measurements were wrong and off... us are a double edge sword. Try and stay positive for him I know its hard, thinking of you!

Nicolle

Mary said...

See this I don't understand. Why can't they fit you in now tomorrow? Why do you have to wait a week? I am praying for you and your little boy.

-clevergirl said...

Congratulations on the boy! I am on a website about trying to conceive and pregnancy and there is a woman whose baby measured very small on her 20 week scan, 8 oz! (the norm is 9 and up) and her doctor gave her no indcicator that anything was wrong. So I think it really varies baby to baby. I am really hoping your little man grows and grows and when you see the specialist he tells you he is fine. **BIG HUG**

Lea said...

Oh Linds.... sending you and baby boy lots and lots of positive thoughts and prayers.

xo

Betty said...

I pray that this little one is ok, and just on the small side.
All my love, hugs, and prayers to you.

Jill said...

My thoughts are with you and your boy! Sending you much love.

Bree said...

Sending love and support! Please let us know what you find out! Hang in there!

Pedro said...

Fell in here by accident but I wish you the very best. It's a scary time and, as has been said, knowing so much more (thanks to the wonders of science) isn't always a benefit...they can be wrong too.
I've known several people who have had "small" and/or early births and those children have turned out to be wonderful individuals.
It's all very well to say "try not to worry" (you're a Mum, it's your job!) but I hope you can find a calm a path as possible and that it all turns out well.

Molly said...

I'm sure my words are inadequate but I just wanted you to know that I'm out here thinking of you and your little boy. I know of many cases where measurements were way, way off so I will hope that this is a blip on your way to holding your healthy baby in your arms. Hugs to you. Hang in there and don't be afraid to call and demand an appointment sooner.

Karen said...

Thinking of you and your baby boy and hoping, praying hard that the dates are off or something. But what a stress for you right now, poor mumma. (((Hugs))) and hope you get another opinion at another scan *soon.*

Tina said...

Oh Lindsay, I can imagine how worried you are. Try to stay positive and focused on this sweet little boy...I know, easier said thatn done. I have been praying for you and will continue to do so. I hope peace finds its way to you soon! xx

Hope's Mama said...

Lindsay, the comment above from Graham was me! Please delete it, a friend was logged in our computer!
My love and thoughts are with you.
xo

margaret said...

I too am thinking of you Lindsay. Hopefully it's just because you haven't gained all that much weight yet and he will grow by leaps and bounds in the next twenty weeks. Praying hard for you honey. Why don't you ask if you can start taking a baby aspirin every day, just in case you do have a clotting problem. Hugs

myskytimes said...

Oh Linds.. somehow I can't help to get mad at your "high-risk" doctor. A week's wait for an appointment?

I personally have 2 friends whose babies were measured weeks behind and turned out lovely, healthy and screaming. And that's what I am hoping with all my might for your little boy.

Thinking about you. Love & Hugs.

SadMommy3434 said...

(((HUGS))) Lindsay!!! I know that you were expecting good news all around. I'll be keeping your little man in my prayers.

m said...

oh Lindsay! I'm sorry the doc has increased, not lessened any anxiety. So happy to hear its a boy. And I have to chime in with everyone else - measurements seem to be a variable thing. I hate that you have to wait a week to learn more.

Waiting with you.

xo

Catherine W said...

Oh a little boy! How lovely.

I'm sorry to hear that his measurements seem to be a little behind. Perhaps he is expecting a growth spurt? Perhaps they might have made a mistake with the measurements? And to keep you waiting for so long just seems cruel. I'm so sorry Lindsay. I hope and pray that this is nothing serious. Thinking of you and your little boy bean xo

Jennifer Ross said...

I feel so bad right now. It is so hard to get bad news. Refuse to believe that anything bad is going to happen to that little boy. I will keep you in prayer Lindsay.

xx