Dec 3, 2009

To do, or not to do?

What do you do when someone will not compromise? When they refuse to even have a civil discussion? When they seep with bitterness and anger and you cannot fathom why?
How do you remove yourself from the line of fire, without removing yourself from the entire range?
I have nothing but questions in my mind, and sadness. I should not be focused on all of this as there is a itty-bitty one that needs me to remember to eat, to drink enough water, TO REST! There is a not-so-itty-bitty one that should not be worrying about her mother.
I have no idea where this post is going. I hate to publish this drivel, but I need some feedback. I have no experience with what seems like someone else having extreme bitterness. I try very hard not to think about this situation constantly, but can I just say, for the record, I don't want to give both of my children to someone else, every other weekend. I want a family. I used to feel like I had a family. I don't know why it feels like it is slowly falling apart.


margaret said...

I'll email you my reply in a bit Lindsay. Hugs

Catherine W said...

I only wish I had some words of advice for you. Sending love to you and I hope that everything works itself out. xo

angie said...

Oh, Linds, just wish I could scoop you up and give you a hug. I can only say that I generally try to disarm someone with honesty. For me, I know I instinctively react to uncompromising people and situations by protecting myself. (Raising my weapons and armor.) Since I can only control my behavior, I feel like if I open up, react against my instincts and become more loving and vulnerable then I am giving that person all the information I can. Here is my heart, and it is not ready to attack you. I'm not sure what the situation is exactly, so this advice might seem ridiculous. I think most uncompromising situations, at their heart are dominated by fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of change. What is he/she afraid of, and how can you soothe him/her? XO

Tina said...

I know that when I am having issues with someone I have to wait until my emotions have calmed down before we discuss it. If not, I become defensive and guarded. I wish I had better advice for you...I am sorry you are having to go through this. xx

Anonymous said...

Oh, Lindsay... I'm sorry things are complicated right now... For me it feels like not being heard is even worse than not being understood. That feels like i'm not even worth enough to voice my opinion. So if I can't make my point to someone (who's not listening) I tend to write letters. That way I can honestly say what I have to say, without being interrupted or getting heated.

I don't really know if that helps you in any way... All I can say is i think about you and hope all will be better soon. Chocolate is on the way... which makes everything better. xoxo